Writing a sex scene, isn’t as easy as it sounds. Two days ago, I literally, sat at my computer, starting at the enemy, my blinking cursor, trying to find ways to write a HOT sex scene. With every steamy scene, I think it’s best for it to be different each time, along with being the characters wanting to engage in more “daring” sex! This task has been difficult because the farther I get in writing my book — I don’t want anything overused. Women, (along with some men), expect the scenes to be magical, as if it were actually them being swept off their feet, and made love to so passionately, by the ever so charming Hero/Heroine!
I have often wondered if writers use their significant other/partner/spouse as their muse when they are writing a love scene. How many of them do you think do this? (Maybe by doing this, it will ignite some sparks, which often brings couples closer together). Mmm….yummy! “Oh, my Hero,” I say as he kisses me, and I can taste the sweetness of his lips — it’s as if they are a combination of sugar cane and chocolate! Or, is that my husband’s lips, instead?!
I found this link, http://writeanything.wordpress.com/2009/04/27/not-all-sex-scenes-are-equal/, which is a great sex writing motivator too…that is, if you don’t have anyone “special” in your life, though you can always create your own fantasy of how YOU want to be loved on…(This works very well)!
Have a great day, everyone!
Jessica S says
See now, I have no guts. I never include these scenes, and when I feel like a scenario is leading up to one, I stop writing and start trying to think up a pen name. Usually, “Cowardly Lion” wins out. he-he
Isabella Louise Anderson says
Thank you for your comment! When I read my first sex scene, I thought that I could never write one. (I’d be too embarrassed to put my name on the cover of that book). One curious day, I decided to try it, (I was feeling very mischievous), and I ended up loving it! I loved how my mind switched into Heroine mode, and the “naughty” side of me came out.
Give it a try, and go for it! I know you’ll be proud of yourself!